However, without a doubt, the number one question I get now-a-days, from parents of teens, is: What do I do about their cellphone!? I will admit, cellphones have changed the game and probably made the distractions from each other worse...
If you're like me, you watched that video and just feel so guilty. I hope that today you put the phone down and spend some quality time with friends and family!! However, I don't want you do just feel guilty today, so take 3-minutes and watch this: click here!!
When it comes to social media and specifically cellphones I don't think I need statistics to sell this point (but if you're 'that guy' here you go)... So what can we do about it!?
- Cellphone Saftey: Locate your son/daughter in an emergency, Block "adult" content, using restrictions for installing apps, in-app purchases, etc.
- Limit cellphone use in general
- Monitor text messages on their phone (yes, you can still get a print out of your son/daughter's text messages but because of the 2006 Consumer Telephone Records Protection Act you will have to go to court to make that happen)
- Specific links for each major telephone provider: AT&T, Sprint & Verizon
- Here's a list of apps parents should be aware of: Click here (Also see: Omegle)
Though the links above are very practical ideas and tools you can implement immediately. The ultimate goal of any parent is to:
- Be the example you want to see in all areas of life
- Discuss with them helpful boundaries for phones and other activities
- Empower them to make positive choices themselves!!
I can't recommend a cellphone contract enough for parents and their teens. Here's a free one I found online (click here) or even go another step further and pic up this really great read "Should I SMASH My Kid's Phone?"
Last thought... Maybe you are one of the lucky ones and your son or daughter is being very responsible with their cellphone use regarding apps, pornography, bullying, etc. But did you know that LOTS of studies have been published recently discussing the fact that standard cellphone use (just texting, talking, etc.) is very harmful to sleep, anxiety and even lower grades!! The fact is, because of the "instant" access cellphones give us, teens feel they must "be there" for their friends no matter the hour.
Remember, you need to be an example... So texting them when they are in class or even having your phone out at all hours of the night is not setting them up for success!!
PLEASE set healthy boundaries with your teen... Utilize the 'Do Not Disturb' feature and have a "charging station" for your cellphones (Yeah, I linked Pinterest, get over it)!!
**If you are interested in my personal three-hour training of the '10 Things YOU Should Know About Teens & Tweens' please e-mail me for a FREE copy of the manuel and video link!!